May 11, 2010
We were finally listened to
We had our first pre-natal appointment with a "normal" OB yesterday. She was phenomenal. I have never felt so validated, listened to, and encouraged by a doctor ever before. This woman was seriously amazing.
First we had our 8 week ultrasound. Baby King looked AMAZING! He (we're still thinking boy) was RIGHT ON TRACK! Measured exactly 8 weeks 2 days, and had a glorious heartbeat of 176. Matt saw the heartbeat right away, I never did get a perfect view, I was a bit too far away from the screen, and the ultrasound at a "normal" doctor's office isn't quite the same as a high tech infertility clinic, oh well.
Once we saw the doctor she asked us a few questions and then we were able to ask her some questions. Right away I asked her what she thought about my MTHFR mutations and a need for blood thinners. She looked us straight in the eyes and said she doesn't know enough about it, but she would research it this week and personally call me back. WOW. Seriously, WOW. Not a single doctor would admit that they didn't know enough about it, not a single doctor would answer our questions, and not a single doctor, until yesterday, ever made me feel like they cared. By 5:30 last night I had received TWO personal phone calls from our doctor. She had found some research (AND EVEN EMAILED A COPY TO ME!) and was confident that everything that I was currently doing was right on, and there is no need for blood thinners. She said that I'm lucky in the fact that I have 2 mutations but they are both on difference chromosomes. People who have 2 mutations on the same chromosome have more issues. So if I continue with crazy high doses of folic acid, that will control my homocysteine levels, which is what would cause the clotting issues. Insert huge sigh of relief. She had mentioned needing to go back to Iowa City to see a high risk OB, but I'm thinking we may avoid that now that we don't have to do blood thinners.
We also were able to ask a ton more questions. I asked about weight, and what I should be aiming to gain. Her answer - nothing would be preferred, but 15 lbs would be the max. I was a bit shocked by her answer. From what I had read I was thinking she would say 25 lbs, but nope, nothing. I'm not exactly sure how a pregnant lady gains no weight, but I guess I'll attempt it. Good thing almost nothing sounds good to eat these days. =)
Yesterday we were given the "pre-natal goody bag" from our doctor's office. In it there was information on the classes that the hospital we will deliver at offer. I called to get dates and to see when people typically take these classes. Long story short, they only offer Lamaze as a birthing technique. I did some more looking around and found that Lamaze is mostly for early labor and is to help you tune out the pain. I also did some research on the Bradley method, which is for the later, tough parts of labor, and teaches you to deal with the pain.
The only downfall is that the Bradley class is $200 more than Lamaze and is 12 weeks long, instead of 8. However, I'm leaning towards the Bradley method. I think it will give me a better shot at a natural delivery. I'm not one of those "I refuse to have an epidural" type of girls, but I would like to give my best effort at a natural birth. So anyone out there have thoughts or info on either class?
Overall I'm thrilled with the doctor we saw. We both left feeling completely understood, and excited about this baby and what is still to come.